This is my second posting of my trauma education series:
Most people have heard about fight and flight: It’s a survival mechanism that kicks into place when we are in danger and chatting and smiling don’t work anymore. The new situation requires us to do something different: We now need to be assertive and set a clear boundary , when it’s more severe push someone away (fight impulse) or we need to turn around, walk or run away (flight impulse).
Most people have heard about fight and flight: It’s a survival mechanism that kicks into place when we are in danger and chatting and smiling don’t work anymore. The new situation requires us to do something different: We now need to be assertive and set a clear boundary , when it’s more severe push someone away (fight impulse) or we need to turn around, walk or run away (flight impulse).
It is normal having to use fight/or flight in life and it is
clever that our bodies are set up for it. Without it people could walk all over
us and things would get messy very soon.
It is just as healthy
that we have access to the freeze state.
It’s our oldest survival mechanism controlled by a nerve called dorsal vegal. It helps us in smaller
doses to go to sleep, in big doses it helps us to survive when even fight/flight isn't enough anymore. We then go
numb, dissociate and submit into
immobility - we take refuge in the freeze
state. In this state nothing hurts too much emotionally nor physically. Nature
intended it this way to help us for when we have an accident or when we are
being attacked.
While on this survival
mode systems like digestion are shut down to conserve energy. Staying in this state too long means our
digestion suffers (irritable bowel
syndrome) and since we feel less pain we also shut down from pleasurable
experiences. We are meant to stay in this state for short times only - we are not reptilians who can comfortably stay
frozen for hours and even days.
The thing is – and here it gets problematic – that some of
us when we were young were faced by situations where fight/flight would have
been necessary. But a baby can’t set a boundary or pack its bags and walk away.
The only way it can escape is by physically
contracting and then by going into a
freeze state straight away.
The freeze state works so well, that as babies we then
become used to frequently going into the freeze state. As adults later on we
therefore go into a freeze state when fight or flight would be much more
appropriate. Life that way becomes difficult and complicated very quickly and
can look like one big exhausting survival
instead of a joyful living.
The good news is, that therapies like Somatic Experiencing, EMDR, MATES and Brain spotting can help reinstate
fight/flight and support a person to become unstuck from a freeze. By following
sensations and slowing things down
the body can carefully be coaxed back to
homeostasis. Having fight flight online again and being able to transition
to relaxed social engagement translates into a much more healthy way of being. Fun, joy, relaxing and nurturing can
now be a much more regular part of your life with a healthier nervous system
supporting you.
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my pos “What is trauma?” , just
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have a look under the blog section on my web site www.counsellingsomatic.com.au More info to this weeks topic: read Stephen Porges Polyvagal Theory.
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