I wish I had read this article 16 years ago when I was giving birth. It talks about the importance of Rest and Repair (which we learn in Somatic Experiencing as well). I believe that if the significance of this rest was well known post natal depression could be prevented in a lot of cases. It would have made such a difference to me, I definitely rushed too much and didn’t give myself enough time for this massive transition to motherhood. Whenever the body works hard, especially after an accident or an operation (and also after giving birth) rest is detrimental for recovery and healing. Rushing into the next phase without having completed this important stage means paying a dear price in the end. Here some words of the article: “There is no rush to get the baby onto the mother’s chest. The mother has a moment to take a breath, to come back from the work of birthing her baby. “This pause,” says Karen Strange, “allows the mother to integrate this moment of transition”. A woman will exhale from the work of birth before she begins to inhale the presence of her child and her new identity as a mother. There is no rush to initiate her as a mother. Most mothers’ first moments after giving birth include a stunned kind of relief, bewilderment, and shock. The mother is not there yet and needs to take a pause first. “ by MARY ESTHER MALLOY

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3209737/

How to activate our social engagement nerve via our senses

We have a nerve called the “smart vagus”, which helps us to self regulate and connect with others. Without this complex engagement nerve we would simply run away or fight other people. Imagine that for a second – we basically would become extinct real quick as we couldn’t handle getting close to anyone!

Our inner ear, face muscles, eyes, mouth, throat and vocal cords  are all connected to our heart, lungs, throat and digestive system and tell them to stay calm so we can stay close and connected with a person without having to go into fight or flight.

When we engage our senses and look around us, listen to sounds or voices, speak or sing, feel a smile on our lips and our cheeks we are activating our smart vagus and can relax into staying close and connected with others. A good life starts with staying close to good people around us.

So get out and engage and nourish your senses J

Why nourishing your own senses as therapist is important

When I work with a client I try to work with all senses, especially when using visualization – the experience then becomes real and so the brain can build a strong new neural connection that serves the person on a higher and much more positive level.

And so that I can do this work with creativity and light humor (especially when working on dark and deep trauma) it is important that I make sure I nourish my own senses every day. I love looking at shapes and nature around me,  I discover new amazing sights every day, allow pleasant sound waves to tickle my ear, touch surfaces and give hugs, tease my taste buds, enjoy moving every joint and muscle in my body via yoga, stretch my arms out wide to take in the sky, breath and spaciousness around me, sing and dance and close my eyes to track sensations inside my body. All this gets me away from the to-do-lists in my head, I connect via my heart with my surroundings  and I find myself playing and enjoying life.

Here is my poem to encourage you to play:

I venture out to play

creating a feast for my senses

My fingers brushed by the wind

while hands delight in shapes of stone

and eyes eagerly following every form

My feet in softness and warmth

leave footsteps of deep behind

Sound waves are tickling my hair

and water cascading over rocks

transforms my belly into an ecstasy of joy

I reach out and my eyes touch endless space

                                                By Barbara Schmidt

Why we have information missing after trauma and how to recall it savely by going very slow

In trauma everything happens very quickly. So fast indeed, that our brain can’t store all the information correctly: Missing pieces, incorrect facts and confusion result in incoherence in the story and we often draw conclusions that can have a very limiting and negative effect on the rest our of our life.

The good news is, that all the information necessary for healing is stored in the body and can be gently accessed with a therapist who is trained to work with sensations. And instead of going fast in therapy it’s necessary to go very slow when tracking these sensations. The slower, the faster is the healing in the end. This is something that still amazes me, but has been confirmed over and over again with my clients.

If the information emerges slowly, the brain is given a chance to store it correctly this time, new meaning can be added to our story and instead of feeling like a victim we come out feeling powerful and in charge of our lives. I would like to celebrate this with a photo from artist and writer Leunig: